Wednesday, October 1, 2008

Wanting a change

I haven't blogged in awhile! I have been busy with homeschooling, and I haven't been very chatty lately. I'm not sure why. I have been going through a phase where I am really wanting a change. I feel like I have changed a lot in who I am on the inside, and I feel that God is helping me to become more of what He wants me to be in that way. It's the outside though that I feel stuck. When I look in the mirror, I just think I look old and frumpy. I asked my hubby the other day if I looked old and frumpy, and he laughed! That is not the response I wanted. He clarified that he definitely didn't think I looked frumpy and old. I keep looking at pictures of me, and I basically have had the same hairstyle for the past 10 years. I wear it in a lot of different updos, but I am still feeling like I am in a hair rut. What really gets to me is the reaction I get from people when I tell them that I am thinking about cutting my hair. Instead of, "Oh no, you shouldn't do that", I get encouragement to cut it! I'm trying to give it the 2 week rule, where I wait 2 weeks to do anything drastic. It has been driving me crazy lately that I have to wear it up often. The other day I was outside with Evie, and we were playing basketball. My hair got in the way, and I had to stop and put it up. It seems like I am always having to put it up. Maybe that wouldn't change unless I cut it short, which I don't plan to do. I'm just wanting to feel young and hip, and I see some really cool styles that I really like and wonder how I would look with one of those styles. I'm not going to jump into anything right now. I'm going to give it 2 weeks to think about it.


Jules said...

Well I'll say it: "No don't cut your gorgeous hair."

Oh JenW, I was going through this less than a fortnight ago. In fact, I go through this lots. But deep down I know I'll regret it if I cut even if I ended up looking more hip.

And you don't look old and frumpy. I think that I do, but that's another story. Jen, everytime I come here and see photos of your hair I feel really disastisfied with mine. Others have fabulous hair (I've just come over from April's blog) but yours is what I wish mine looked like. And gosh, if the rest of me looked like you I wouldn't complain either.

As woman we want to be attractive. It's part of our make-up. I've often wondered what it would be like to be beautiful for a day, but you don't have to wonder. You are beautiful.

A very wise and special woman told me that our long hair is pleasing to God. Try and remember that!

April said...

Jen, you couldn't look old and frumpy if you TRIED. You are beautiful. So is your hair! But I do understand how you feel because I have some of the same thoughts. Especially as my hair gets longer and I have to wear it up more often.

I work with a woman who recently cut her shoulder-length hair into a bob that looks gorgeous on her. She looks stylish and "hip" and it's just so pretty on her. I know I would never get a bob, but I'd love to have a stylish look at times too. I'll never go short, but yeah, sometimes a bit shorter with a different sort of cut would be nice so I could wear it down more.

If you have always worn your hair basically the same, maybe you should experiment a bit. Nothing drastic that you would regret, but something different. If I had curly or very wavy hair, one thing I would do is get layers to bring out my waves and curls more - like I used to have it cut when I had a perm. I loved it. But... your hair is so beautiful I'd hate to see you cut layers in it! Nooooooo!

Maybe it's the change of the season that is making you think about change for yourself. There isn't anything wrong with that.

(And there is nothing wrong about not feeling "chatty" right now either). :)

Kelly said...

Oh Jen you do NOT repeat NOT look frumpy.
I think you're just in a mood for some change. And since you've been on my blog recently you already know that I satisfy that desire by changing the decor of my house. But sometimes we want to change our looks, nothing wrong with that!
I love your hair. But I can understand the maintence issue. I never had hair as long as yours, mine was middle back at the longest, but I remember it frustrated me at that length. Always having to put it up to keep it out of the way.
I agree with one of the other posters about trying a slightly new style of hair cut. Something that wouldn't take more than a few inches off the length but stylist can cut in layers to bring out the curl or waves. There is nothing that says you have to go from long hair to a shot bob style. Don't perm it especially if you have wavy hair, the perm won't take. Did you consider a semi permanent hair color?
I'm growing my hair out right now and I already know that my goal is a just below the shoulder length, any longer and I don't have time to maintain it and it loses it's waviness, and shorter - well I've done that.
Good luck Jen. Look at some hair web sites or something to get ideas for your hair. Can't wait to find out what you decide to do.

SchnauzerMom said...

I think your hair is gorgeous and that you do NOT look old and frumpy. Don't do anything that you would regret later and also remember that those cute styles have to be styled everyday, curling irons, products of all kinds and so on.

Daisy said...

Jen I think you are beautiful. You are not old or frumpy at all. AND to top it all off, your such a beautiful person on the inside.

Jen said...

Aww, thanks you guys! Wow, you all sure know how to make a girl feel better :). I really appreciate your very kind words.

Jules: Thank you for all that you wrote, and for your encouragement. I'm not real great at taking my own advice sometimes :). Thank you for the reminder. Thank you for being such a great friend!

April: Thank you! I have thought about getting layers. I had layers years ago, and I remember that they drove me a bit crazy, but the person who layered it did a really bad job. I like how you had your hair tapered just in the front when you had your hair cut shorter right before your wedding. I may try that instead of layering all over. I'm just going to wait and see right now. When your hair was around waist length, were you still able to do a lot of updos, or do you find that you can do way more now that your hair is longer?

Kelly: Thank you for your advice and kind words. I'm thinking about what I can change that wouldn't be too drastic, but would be enough of a change to make me content. I like your idea of changing decor in your house when you are in need of a change :).

SchnauzerMom: Thank you for your kind words. You made a very good point. I look at these beautiful layered styles, and I guess I need to think about how much maintenance they are! Right now my hair is very low maintenance. So thank you for that reminder!

Daisy: Aww, thank you! That was so sweet of you to say that!